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Jerk-Ass Law Student Comment of the Day

Posted by pocochina on January 30, 2008

“Engagement rings aren’t really a gift!  They’re conditional!  More like a down payment!”

At first, I didn’t understand why everyone was laughing, what with my tiny girl brain and all, but then it clicked!  It was a joke about how marriage is prostitution and women are property!   HAAAAAAAAAHAHAHAHAHAAHAHHAAHA!  OMG GEDDIT?

People ask me why I’m angry, I swear to God.

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Posted by pocochina on January 29, 2008

Oh, Hillary.  Oh, my heart.

http://www.americablog.com/2008/01/hilla

ry-speaks-out-about-gay-youth.html

Doubtless, of course, she is pandering, plus HER HUSBAND SIGNED DADT and clearly they are married so they are the SAME PERSON (forget that things were even worse before DADT, and Bill did the best he could at the time, and both Clintons are on the record as wanting to change the law to make it better), plus she is a manipulative castrating bitch, OBVSLY, and Obama never panders, so the fact that she specifically chose to speak on this issue and put it on her website shows that we should all vote for Obama right now.  Everything good Hillary does or says is TOTALLY FAKE and a reason to vote for ANYONE ELSE.  *rolls eyes*  I’m not making this up, BTW, I’m getting it from the first twenty or so comments at AmericaBlog.

She CHOSE to speak on behalf of people who are triply marginalized – youths (who, remember CANNOT VOTE, and hence by definition cannot be subjects of alleged pandering), LGBTQ individuals, and people suffering from depression.  It’s a Republican Hate Trifecta.  (Oh, and plus being the right thing to do, it is also good politics, because the only jerks who are going to be angry about this are people who wouldn’t vote for a Democrat anyway.)  And….oh, my heart.  My head and my heart.  This issue is a travesty and I am so proud to see a presidential candidate take it on.

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NOW-NY doesn’t speak for me either

Posted by pocochina on January 29, 2008

but I still wanna talk about this.

First off, Senator Kennedy has every right to endorse whoever he wants. He of course would deserve heaping (though better-written) scorn for endorsing a Republican or similar lunatic, but he still may endorse whoever he wants. And NOW-NY has every right not to be happy about it, but they shouldn’t have expressed it the way that they did, it was politically harmful.

What I’m more interested in is the hubbub surrounding the letter. “THIS is why the menz hate feminism!” “THIS is why girls don’t want to identify as feminists!” “THIS is why everyone thinks we are hysterical!” NOW-NY fucked up, big time, if only as a political tactic (again, perfectly free not to like something Senator Kennedy does), but the anticipation that feminists must never do anything wrong or even vaguely embarrassing, ever, and if one does we have let all women down, and WILL SURELY DIE. Every fucking thing we do, apparently, has the potential to discredit feminism.

I wish it weren’t sort of true – people who hate women will do anything to discredit feminists. And women will be blamed for things other women do, particularly feminists. Particularly during a political campaign, and especially at a time in American history where women are more truly present in national politics than we have ever been – the misogyny will eventually get better, but it will almost certainly get worse first. But many, many people on that thread were just so angry about what was clearly a stupid mistake, because it would MAKE FEMINISTS LOOK BAD, without stepping back to remember that out of the hundreds of chapters of feminist organizations there are across the country, we will all be judged by this one stupid letter – we must ALWAYS be on our guard about seeming hysterical! Always! Even if it means savaging our own! Yes, that letter can be used to portray all feminists as psycho man-haters, but the people who were going to think that think we are psycho man-haters anyway, and they will always think we are psycho man-haters no matter how many moderated, cool-headed press releases national feminist organizations churn out every day. By all means, be angry at the Stupid, I am too. But I think it is short-sighted to blame the constant demonization of feminism on one stupid mistake. People will fuck up from time to time, and should rightfully be taken to task for it, but to blame the misogyny of all human history on a few silly mistakes is simply ridiculous.

Now of course there will be unfair implications, especially for Senator Clinton – who would never have called for such a stupid attack on Senator Kennedy, for Chrissake. ONE VAGINA SAID IT SO THEY ALL MUST SAY IT, will say the Mainstream Political Establishment. Case in point: the Politico printed the letter and confirmation of its authenticity (but I still wanna talk about this [http://feministing.com/archives/008495.h

tml#comments].

First off, Senator Kennedy has every right to endorse whoever he wants. He of course would deserve heaping (though better-written) scorn for endorsing a Republican or similar lunatic, but he still may endorse whoever he wants. And NOW-NY has every right not to be happy about it, but they shouldn’t have expressed it the way that they did, it was politically harmful.

What I’m more interested in is the hubbub surrounding the letter. “THIS is why the menz hate feminism!” “THIS is why girls don’t want to identify as feminists!” “THIS is why everyone thinks we are hysterical!” NOW-NY fucked up, big time, if only as a political tactic (again, perfectly free not to like something Senator Kennedy does), but the anticipation that feminists must never do anything wrong or even vaguely embarrassing, ever, and if one does we have let all women down, and WILL SURELY DIE. Every fucking thing we do, apparently, has the potential to discredit feminism.

I wish it weren’t sort of true – people who hate women will do anything to discredit feminists. And women will be blamed for things other women do, particularly feminists. Particularly during a political campaign, and especially at a time in American history where women are more truly present in national politics than we have ever been – the misogyny will eventually get better, but it will almost certainly get worse first. But many, many people on that thread were just so angry about what was clearly a stupid mistake, because it would MAKE FEMINISTS LOOK BAD, without stepping back to remember that out of the hundreds of chapters of feminist organizations there are across the country, we will all be judged by this one stupid letter – we must ALWAYS be on our guard about seeming hysterical! Always! Even if it means savaging our own! Yes, that letter can be used to portray all feminists as psycho man-haters, but the people who were going to think that think we are psycho man-haters anyway, and they will always think we are psycho man-haters no matter how many moderated, cool-headed press releases national feminist organizations churn out every day. By all means, be angry at the Stupid, I am too. But I think it is short-sighted to blame the constant demonization of feminism on one stupid mistake. People will fuck up from time to time, and should rightfully be taken to task for it, but to blame the misogyny of all human history on a few silly mistakes is simply ridiculous.

Now of course there will be unfair implications, especially for Senator Clinton – who would never have called for such a stupid attack on Senator Kennedy, for Chrissake. ONE VAGINA SAID IT SO THEY ALL MUST SAY IT, will say the Mainstream Political Establishment. Case in point: Politico printed the letter and confirmation of its authenticity. What’s the one tag?

“Hillary Clinton.”

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hypo of the day

Posted by pocochina on January 28, 2008

If this lowlife were connected to _________, instead of Barack Obama, the general reaction from the media and/or from the average Hipster Liberal(TM) would be ______________.

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LEAVE BRITNEY ALONE

Posted by pocochina on January 27, 2008

I’m not really a celebrity-watcher (I hadn’t ever read Perez until the tragic news about Heath Ledger earlier this week), but I am oddly a watcher of celebrity coverage.  By which I mean, I don’t know or care Lindsey Lohan is up to, but when I see her on CNN, I read and wonder why we feel so free to speculate on whether she suffers from bulemia or a cocaine addiction; I search for meaning as to why a starlet’s pain is such big news.  I realize that it’s because women who are young and beautiful – and doing exactly what a patriarchal society insists they should – must still suffer, or they will get all uppity thinking they are people and stuff.  And because our faux-“free market” worshiping society relies on unnecessary competition as well as healthy competition, else we will stop all hating each other, and women are required to compete on the Hetero-Fuckability Scale, or else we will, I dunno, remember we are good at other stuff.  But I want to think it’s more complicated than that.

Which brings me, of all fucking things, to Britney’s period stain.

I am so, so disgusted.  Not by the fact that OMG, an adult woman menstruates, but by the cultural narrative which says that women who menstruate are disgusting, that periods are something of which we should be ashamed – and by the way in which this particular shame crossed ways with this particular starlet.  Americans are crassly fixated on Britney’s sexuality.  We have been since her debut.  She was the queen of the virgin/whore dichotomy, and now she’s suffering in that very same construct.  Now that she has had kids – now that that our perceptions of her sexuality have changed (not a Virginial Girl, nor a Modest Mother), we must continue to recreate the Used-Up Bad Girl.  And what could possibly be a better tool to put her in her place than her period?  We like to think of it as the ugly, dirty side of our sexual maturity; the idea that despite the way our bodies are so terribly commercialized, they are still bodies, and they do the things human bodies do.  They make babies, and they bleed, and sometimes they betray our fraying emotions and our frantic minds.

And then the fucking moralizing, when Margaret Cho dared to stand up for her!  Margaret’s point, if I may speak for the Great One herself, was that it is seriously fucked up to humiliate someone for something so normal as a period stain.  “You should use hydrogen peroxide!”  “You should get new sheets!”  “You should buy a DivaCup!”*  Way to prove her point, jackasses.  Period stains happen all the time.  We are only ashamed of them because we are taught to do so in a world which a) hates women and b) makes enormous amounts of money off of our shame.  Period stains are embarrassing because they mean we are women who have failed to hide our physical femininity, and therefore failed at our societal performance of femininity.

Britney was, in her heyday, the height of emphasized femininity – shockingly young, taut and curvy, with her blonde hair, and bright eyes meaning as much as her conservative Christianity and professed virginity. Whatever she thought, all that she suffered, she hid it from us with a megawatt smile.  She straddled the virgin/whore dichotomy, and then she dared to become human – she admitted her sexuality, she fell in love and made bad choices and had beautiful children and then crashed, forcing the toll of her life on our cannibalistic celebrity press corps.  She reminded us that the product of Britney was not a person.  It’s one more tiny crack in the wall between what a capitalist patriarchy demands women be, and what we actually are.  She’s crashing and burning, in front of all our eyes, because she has nowhere else to be.

*I want Margaret to have a Diva Cup now too, and not just because it was probably named after her badass diva self, but ’cause it could make that part of her life less annoying.  Definitely not because then Margaret, like me, could then be So! Morally! Superior! to poor period stained Britney.

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Hillary is my bitchy, elitist homegirl

Posted by pocochina on January 25, 2008

Apparently, I am a war-mongering, troop-hating, self-deluding crazy person, because I have failed the holier-than-thou mainstream liberal test of hating Hillary Clinton with my entire soul.  She-is-a-lying-bitch-and-wuz-mean….during a political campaign which has been nasty on all (at my last count, over seven thousand, though minus two as of yesterday) sides for over a year.  No, I still fail.  Clearly, I didn’t actually personally protest the Iraq War in 2003, I must have been drunk on Republican Juice* and just thought I was marching on the National Mall.  Man, that must have been some good shit.  Party on, Wayne!  I never get to be the pragmatic moderate!

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things that make me want to give the fuck up

Posted by pocochina on January 24, 2008

A Marine was murdered.

A pregnant Marine was murdered.

A pregnant Marine was murdered, by her alleged rapist.

A pregnant Marine was murdered, by her alleged rapist, probably for having dared to report the rape.  (Which report, of course, was shamefully handled.)

And, I swear to God, CNN wants me to know that the fetus wasn’t born alive.

This woman, who put her life on the line for her country, only to face an enemy that wore her uniform.  Are we even going to pretend women are worth anything?  Are we even going to fucking fake it?  I can only imagine the hell this woman went through, I can only pray for some small ray of solace to her family, I can only refuse to forget her story, and all the ones we don’t hear.

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Blog for Choice Day

Posted by pocochina on January 22, 2008

I vote pro-choice because it is my duty to vote in my own best interests and in the best interests of my country.

I vote pro-choice not only to stem the tide of the anti-woman, anti-sex, anti-choice movement, but also to show the world through policy and law what a vision of reproductive justice means.

Reproductive justice means saving Roe, but also making the right to an abortion a reality for every woman.  It means demanding an expansion of government health care to provide abortion, and a mandate for every health insurance plan to pay for abortion.

It means protecting patient privacy, so that the societal shame around abortion is never a factor in a woman’s decision, but it also means removing that stigma, in changing the Scarlet A to a private, soft pink “I chose.”

It means laws which require pharmacists to do their jobs, dispensing birth control and emergency contraception to women (and men) who ask for it.

Reproductive justice means an end to the Global Gag rule, this brutal policy which causes suffering to women around the world.  Wit my vote, I may tell the women not just of this country, but of the entire world, that I consider us human, and value our lives and safety.

It means legal and fiscal recognition of the fact that abstinence-only “education” is nothing more than a pile of federally-funded misogynist (and misandrist) lies, and replacing that with comprehensive sexual health education.

It means lifting the long and terrible silence on sterilization.  It means an unequivocal stance against forced or incentivized sterilization for poor women and women of color.  It means allowing women who choose sterilization because it is best for them to be able to do so, unshamed and unfettered.  There is no logical disconnect between these two positions.  The discussion around sterilization must – MUST- stem from women’s agency, and right to choose for themselves whether or not they will ever have children.  It is possible, and in fact crucial, to remember that this is our premise, that women be able to make these decisions for ourselves.  This doesn’t make us pro-sterilization or anti-sterilization.  It makes us pro-choice.

It means recognizing that when women are pregnant, with wanted or unwanted pregnancies, that they do not lose their personhood.  It means doing away with laws which seek to privilege fetal life over women’s lives, such as the “Unborn Victims of Violence Act” – as if murder of a woman is not reprehensible enough without the termination of a pregnancy, as well.  The fiction of fetal personhood does not protect fetal life, but it does threaten the agency of the very real woman carrying the fetus.  Women must unquestionably be able to exercise their rights, whether or not they are pregnant, and whether or not they intend to carry that pregnancy to term.

It means continuing to openly and vociferously support LGBTQ rights.  Gays and lesbians are not just allies in our fight for reproductive justice – though in the gay community there are valuable and valiant allies.  They are hurt by the anti-choice movement when they are denied the right to adopt children, denied in vitro fertilization, denied the right to marry.  These are pro-choice issues, too.

It means calling, once and for all, the overarching and murderous hypocrisy of the anti-choice movement.  A movement which opposes protecting women against cancer is not pro-life.  A movement which denies children of information about sexual health, placing them at greater risk for HIV/AIDS, is not pro-life.  A movement which denies women in danger the safest medical procedure possible is not pro life.

Voting pro-choice is a recognition of the fact that criminalization of abortion does not end abortions.  It ends safe abortions, it makes women and doctors into criminals.  Abortion bans put women’s lives in danger; abortion bans are not pro-life.  It makes the right to privacy, deeply enshrined in our Constitution, a qualified right available only to some people – which is no right at all.

I vote pro-choice because my life, along with the lives of women and men I love, depend on it.

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