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Posted by pocochina on October 31, 2007

BACK UP OFF MY GIRL.

Okay. I was just disappointed in Barack Obama. Now I’m pissed.

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tired

Posted by pocochina on October 16, 2007

Normally, I’d have some snark.  A couple hours ago, I did.  I had a great bit about how I feel like Annie Sullivan in that shitty movie version of The Miracle Worker.  (“Women are people!  W-A-T-E-R, HELEN, WATER!” It was especially good because Helen Keller was a badass socialist feminist who would totally back me up.  See?  Good snark.)  A couple days ago, I definitely did.

But right now I’m drained.

The future lawmakers of the next few decades are learning/saying things like:

“Premarital sex is analogous to heroin use.”

“Women should be liable for what happens to their fetuses from the time they know they’re pregnant.”

“Laws overturned by the Court haven’t really been that important recently.  Like the Violence Against Women Act.”

“Women who could be pregnant , even if they weren’t a few days ago, shouldn’t receive emergency x-rays.”

I’m so uncomfortable talking about pregnancy in class.  I don’t know why.  I’ve never been pregnant, and I don’t plan to be for the next few years.  Maybe it was because today I’d left open an article on my laptop before class had started, you know, the one about how 48% of abortions worldwide are unsafe, about how pregnant women die horribly just for being women and there’s people in this country who support that experience and call themselves pro-life. I despise that my casebook, put out by one of the most prolific publishers in legal education, lumps rape together with property crime.  I don’t like that whenever we discuss overturning Supreme Court decisions, it’s always Roe.  Our bodies, my body, a vague statistical hypothetical.  Usually in law school, to take the pain out of the tragic things we discuss, we go over the top and get all campy – it’s not just bad driving, there was a newborn baby convention in the middle of the highway!  That’s bizarre, which is why it works to at least partially distract us from the sadness we sometimes have to face.  Roe being overturned, forcing underprivileged women to suffer the fear and agony we thought we’d left behind, is all too possible.

I know this is why it’s important that I didn’t get that Master’s in Gender and Sexuality Studies.  I know that’s why I should be gratified I didn’t run off to write for Europe on a Shoestring.  I know this is why people like me – women and men and neitheroftheabove – need to be lawyers.  I know the injustice to my feelings is nothing compared to the damage this outlook does and will continue to do to other people.

That doesn’t make the endless litany of “bitches ain’t shit” any easier to hear.

The way I’m reacting tonight scares me.  I am used to feeling tired, frustrated, sofuckingangry, like a broken record, privileged, overprivileged, neither, both, confused, overwhelmed, ohsofucking not up to the task.  But hopeless is a new one for me.

Here’s to tomorrow.

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shove it, giuliani

Posted by pocochina on October 15, 2007

Okay.  Mostly, I despise Mayor Giuliani because he fucked over the firefighters on 9/11.  Oh, and how he takes credit for lowering the crime rate in NYC while rejecting the very policies that helped him lower that crime rate.  (As in, functionally literate people know that handguns kill people, so you should crack down on illegal handguns if people are getting killed.  As in he was a pro-choice New Yorker but now he’s all but (if not actually) promised to establish anti-choice judges and Justices.  As Jon Stewart (*fans self*) so perceptively observed about Senator Spector – “I have principles, but it’s not like I’m going to stand by them or anything.”  Because he craves the authoritarian privilege that comes, however rightly or wrongly, in a tragic crisis.

AND NOW THERE’S THIS.

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Posted by pocochina on October 14, 2007

DEAR TORTS TEXTBOOK AUTHORS:

IT IS NOT OKAY TO COMPARE RAPE TO A PROPERTY CRIME.

IT IS ALSO NOT OKAY TO SUGGEST THAT POLICE DO NOT HAVE A DUTY TO PROTECT RAPE VICTIMS FROM THEIR MURDEROUS RAPISTS.

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ENDA

Posted by pocochina on October 11, 2007

Okay.  I want a trans-inclusive ENDA.  I think it’s unconscionable that someone can be fired for being transgender in this country.  I want to call every fucking “free-market conservative”* and ask why they don’t think a the right of a to work qualified individual should be protected, I want to call up every “pro-life”** Republican and ask why they don’t think a parent’s right to earn a living for one’s children doesn’t deserve the full protection fo the federal government.

But it is also unconscionable to throw gay, lesbian, and bisexual Americans under the bus when there’s a chance to protect their rights to work.

And it is stupid to blame Representative Frank and Speaker Pelosi for this.  You want to write a letter?  Write it to the people who’d vote for a gay-inclusive ENDA but not a trans-inclusive one.  They’re being stupid.  Someone should tell them that.

Blame the bigots who won’t vote for any ENDA because they are unmitigated bigots.

Blame the reactionary elements of our society that piss their pants at the thought of anyone revealing the gender binary for the load of crap that it is.

But step the hell off the Speaker, who’s stood in front of the national press and called for transgender rights.  Who is breaking down the gender divide her damn self by wielding that gavel every day.

Step the hell off Representative Frank, who’s not only been fighting for LGBTQ rights for years, but who is doing his utmost to get both ENDAs passed, and then has the nearly unprecedented courage to explain, openly, honestly, emotionally, about the political realities of what he’s doing.

I’m in no way denying that transgender persons need employment protections.  They probably need it more than anyone else, not because being transgender makes a person in any way less fit to work, but because their place on the boundaries of genders makes employers “uncomfortable.”

I’m not going to lament the fragmentation of the progressive Democrats.  We’re fragmented because we have a high tolerance for diversity – it’s kind of our thing – and genuine disagreement and critical discussion are crucial to democracy.  But being angry because we live in a bigoted political system that will only give some people rights shouldn’t make us angry at the people doing their best to work within that system.  It should make us angry at the fact that this is even a fucking question.

Get as God damn angry as you want.  Let’s have a big anger party.  I’ll bring the chardonnay.

But get angry at the people who damn well deserve it.

*We’ll go with the lie for now.
**This lie too.  Although it hurts my soul.

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Dear Jackasses who Throw Around Important Legal Concepts to Justify Ignoring Bigotry and Bias Crime:

Posted by pocochina on October 5, 2007

(cut b/c possibly triggering)

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sex, drugs, & britney spears

Posted by pocochina on October 4, 2007

I’m quickly crystallizing  thoughts about something that deeply frustrates me about not living in a feminist world.  It makes me *so* upset to hear about “lug”s and bisexuals until graduation and what the  hell ever.

I understand, as best as a woman with het-privilege can, that it makes life that much more difficult on LBT women who are already marginalized.  I know that if *I* had gone through that process of examining outsiderhood, realizing that it was me, and then being *unspeakably* brave and coming out, you’d have to hold me the fuck back every time I heard “my friend JoAnn tried that whole gay thing, and now she’s married to Bob and they have BABIEZ.”  I can’t imagine how it feels to love someone who you think has gone through that with you, and then you find out she was “just experimenting.”  The image of drunk sorority sisters kissing at a bar gets thrown around a lot.

It’s bizarre think of, but in a vacuum, that’s totally morally neutral.  There is nothing inherently bad or anti-feminist about exhibitionism.  It is not wrong.  It is not immoral or something you should only do when youre omg soooooooooooo drunk did that really happen?  It can be enjoyable, it can be important, it can be sexual and hot and fun.  Same with experimentation.  If you are attracted to someone, and there is mutual consent, you’re allowed to make out and you’re allowed to get into it and you’re allowed to enjoy it.  Maybe you’re gay, and maybe you’re not, and you’re allowed to find out.  It is not wrong.  But we don’t live in a vacuum, we live in a world where that hurts other women.

But it hurts queer-identified women, because we live in a sexist heteronormative world that ranks some experiences as valid and some experiences as not, and in general, still cannot deal with female sexuality that does not center around male pleasure.  I’m not going to pretend we live in that world, we don’t.  But it’s morally bad that those things hurt people because of the world we live in.  They are not morally wrong in and of themselves.

Which brings me, tangentially, to Britney Spears.  I never, ever expected to hear myself defend Britney Spears.  But I am totally on her side.  She’s no longer some fucking pedophiliac concept of unrealistic faux-virginial “sexy” so get back to the trailer park, little girl, and don’t you dare enjoy the youth you never had, and if you do, we’re taking your kids.  All she did was disturb our idealized picture of Teh Sexy Virgin Mama.

Does “just experimenting” even really, truly exist?  I mean, if there’s mutual sexual attraction that two (or more) people act upon – is it really, honeslty experimenting?  I know it’s not my choice to label someone else’s experience.  But I hope that if I were to actually one day have a relationship with a woman, that I wouldn’t be *just* trying to see how much her bits look like mine.

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